The Cost of No | DKA Toolkit

Everyone pays something for a no. Not everyone pays the same amount. A refusal that sounds reasonable from a colleague can be read as difficult from you, and nobody will say that out loud.

The Cost of No is built on Duane K. Andrews's course How to Say No to Someone With Power Over You, read through the ENRICH Framework created by Duane K. Andrews and Sherry M. Jerimie: Ethnicity, Nationality, Race, Identity, Culture and Heritage. It helps you price a no honestly and choose the route that costs you least.

◆ Price a no honestly before you give it
◆ Spot the standard nobody wrote down but everyone applies to you
◆ Choose your route to no when the same words land differently coming from you
◆ Push back on the extra asks that land on your desk first
◆ Keep a dated record, emailed to yourself, when a refusal starts costing you
◆ Recognize when the cost has moved from the request to the job itself

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The Cost of No

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Everyone pays something for a no. Not everyone pays the same amount. When your Ethnicity, Nationality, Race, Identity, Culture or Heritage sets you apart where you work, a refusal that sounds reasonable from a colleague can be read as difficult from you.

That does not mean you keep saying yes. It means you choose your route to no with the real cost in view.

I am The Cost of No. Tell me what you were asked, who asked, and what you think a no would cost you.

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