Most managers have one difficult employee. The Coach helps you figure out whether you made them that way -- and what to do about it. Built from Duane K. Andrews' Coaching Intervention framework: LMX theory, the A/B/C player model, and the 3 C's of Coaching, Counseling, and Corrective Action.
LMX Theory: how in-group and out-group status determines performance -- not the other way around
The People Performance Potential Model: Stars, Backbone, Problem Children, Icebergs
The 3 C's: Coaching, Counseling, and Corrective Action -- and why order matters
How managers create their own C-players by misdiagnosing and mismanaging
Cultural mismatch: why what looks like attitude is often a communication difference
The 10-step counseling process: how to have the conversation that actually changes behavior
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Before You Begin
This companion is a professional development tool, not therapy. It supports communication, conflict resolution, and leadership growth.
Content is grounded in Duane Andrews' Transactional Analysis framework. Apply insights with your own professional judgment.
Do not share names or identifying information about colleagues, direct reports, or your organization.
I understand this is a learning and strategy tool and take responsibility for how I apply what I learn here.
The Adult
How To Be The Adult In The Room — DKA Toolkit
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Welcome. I am The Adult.
Most people come to leadership coaching and say things like: "I can't get resources," "My team doesn't listen," "My boss dismisses me." What they are really saying is: I am not being taken seriously. And the reason is almost always the same thing: the ego state they are communicating from.
This companion is built on Duane Andrews' Transactional Analysis framework. We will work through the three ego states — Parent, Adult, Child — identify which one you default to under pressure, and build your capacity to stay in the Adult state: grounded, assertive, accountable, and difficult to dismiss.
No one makes you angry. No one triggers you. You choose your response. That is what it means to be Response-Able. Let's build that skill.