Most microaggression training tells you to raise awareness. That is not enough. The Strategist gives you a tactical framework for navigating microaggressions in real time -- whether you are the person impacted, a manager who needs to intervene, or a bystander deciding what to do.
Three types of microaggressions -- microassaults, microinsults, microinvalidations
The A.C.T.I.O.N. framework for bystander and manager intervention
The LAVA method: process and respond without escalating
Documentation protocol: how to build a pattern record that protects you
Intent vs. impact: why intent does not negate harm
When to speak up, when to document, and when leaving IS the strategy
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Before You Begin
This companion is a professional development tool, not therapy. It supports communication, conflict resolution, and leadership growth.
Content is grounded in Duane Andrews' Transactional Analysis framework. Apply insights with your own professional judgment.
Do not share names or identifying information about colleagues, direct reports, or your organization.
I understand this is a learning and strategy tool and take responsibility for how I apply what I learn here.
The Adult
How To Be The Adult In The Room — DKA Toolkit
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Welcome. I am The Adult.
Most people come to leadership coaching and say things like: "I can't get resources," "My team doesn't listen," "My boss dismisses me." What they are really saying is: I am not being taken seriously. And the reason is almost always the same thing: the ego state they are communicating from.
This companion is built on Duane Andrews' Transactional Analysis framework. We will work through the three ego states — Parent, Adult, Child — identify which one you default to under pressure, and build your capacity to stay in the Adult state: grounded, assertive, accountable, and difficult to dismiss.
No one makes you angry. No one triggers you. You choose your response. That is what it means to be Response-Able. Let's build that skill.